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My brother had a kid and I always feel like some out of touch old man when we talk about it. Once he told me todlers can only have distilled water and I had to stop myself from going “Back in my day, my parents gave me tap water and I turned out fine!”
I thought distilled water was bad for humans to consume as it leeches nutrients from you?
That’d be deionized water, I think…
Nope, distilled water has nothing, no minerals or anything else, including ions. Deionized water is also not the best for consumption.
But distilled is perfectly safe to drink… it just tastes weird from the lack of minerals and other stuff.
For once, yes. But exclusively? It’ll extract minerals from your body, causing health issues.
Source?
Osmosis
So why are mothers expected to just figure things out on their own? We humans have women living way past fertile age because they were important for children, and suddenly we decided we don’t need grandma’s help passing along generational knowledge and helping first time mothers. Grandma/Grandpa are supposed to be free and focus on helping the parents so they learn and don’t make mistakes because they don’t know anything.
And community too. It’s so isolated. Makes me sad, and afraid to have children.
Let’s be real, the whole “only mom and dad are supposed to FAFO on their own” is an extremely stupid societal expectation. Humans were never meant to live as isolated animals, always in groups
I know right. I don’t see why countries promote this kinda individualism and expect people to have children.
It’s easier for them to control large scale populations if those populations don’t have a strong social structure
Some things you really do just have to learn by experience, but there is no reason to withhold knowledge that can help someone be better or do something easier.
YouTube has converted “sharing knowledge” to “monetization”, so no one helps unless they’re getting something back for it.
When you’re planning on having kids, or pregnant, your health care providers will recommend you take some parenting classes. There’s ways to learn, don’t let your parents not being there for you stop you. You will also likely get recommended to get a doula and midwife.
It’s not the same. For starters, none of it is free. Like every other aspect of capitalism, it disproportionately affects the poor. Also, I don’t know about you, but I would never be able to trust a stranger as much as my own family. And the family is also missing out. It’s so rewarding to raise a baby. I was involved in raising many of my nieces and nephews, and it was so great. Just interacting with kids is a beautiful thing, and a wonderful stress reliever. (I know not everyone likes babies, but many do.) I know that there’s some real threat of perverts, but the fact that babies are pretty much isolated from the society is not great for their growth.
Free where I live.
And why do you think the family still can’t be involved? Your parents likely don’t know everything, and there’s recent discoveries to know about too. Even with family support, you should still do all the above as well. Prepare yourself, don’t expect others to always be there.
Lotta people lose their families
To christianity, fascism, just being personally shitty
Edit: oooooh downvoting. Don’t want to be reminded how christianity shatters families?
