So before anything I’m a trans woman (20), I do not claim to be a real woman or try to put women down or mock them. So please I’d like to ask you to abstein from comments about it because I already know what I am.
I’ve been trying dating apps because they feel safer than just dating people from your daily life when I was a teen (friends and classmates).
I do have a note on my profile that notifies these men about what I am before they can chat with me, some unmatch, others will say bad stuff before leaving, but another big amount stay. Everything goes fine we chat for a long time, we have a few dates, but in the end they all seem to lose interest at some point.
It just makes me so tired of meeting a lot of different men every month. I don’t understand what they want.
“You don’t look trans” and asking if you really are, or other reinforcements of how feminine you look.
These are compliments based on your physical characteristics that they find sexual because it is from potential partners on a dating site. It is very different than a platonic friend saying the exact same words because of the dating context.
It isn’t indicating anything nefarious, just a sign that they are focused on that aspect and it is most likely a fetish for them. It often means they are just looking for sex and not a relationship. If they pivot to personality and other things about you shortly after then there is a better chance they see you as a whole person.