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IS THAT A RAINBOW IN THEIR PFP? DID GRINDR GO WOKE???
How shocking!
Equal opportunity sodomy imposed.
Soft men make me hard.
“GrindrUK” “@GrindrUS”
Ignoring for a moment that apparently women don’t exist in that world, even the premise doesn’t hold: Bad times don’t make hard people, bad times make sick, malnourished, badly educated and/or desperate people, none of which is conductive to making the proposed following of the good times.
If any of that were true, the good times in the so called first world should’ve made their peoples so soft compared to the hard peoples that should’ve been created literally everywhere else that the last 300 years of war or so should’ve ended very differently.
It’s a racist propaganda trope that harkens back to ancient Rome where senators decried the “soft” Roman lifestyle compared to the “hard” germanic tribes and has gathered connotations of blood-and-earth (“Blut und Boden”, no idea how thats translated) and other unsavory shit in the meantime.
I like to call it the “Fremen Mirage” after the awesome blog collection of a historian I very much like: https://acoup.blog/2020/01/17/collections-the-fremen-mirage-part-i-war-at-the-dawn-of-civilization/
Props to grindr for judo-ing this pile of worms to a place the original poster presumably wouldn’t have liked very much
I love that blog. It’s written in such a thorough yet accessible manner that I’ve actually sent that particular post to a friend with whom I was arguing about this with
Most of what makes these “bad times”, involves the existence of massive dickheads like Laurence Fox, who think that strength is the same as bigotry.
So… we are in bad times… and bad times make hard men… and “we need MEN”… and grindr’s going to make men hard…
Just trying to follow the logic…
This is patently inaccurate. If anything, bad times make soft men, in many of us desperate crave someone to protect us, with whom we feel safe to be soft with. And then, of course, soft men makes hard men
Reminder that Laurence Fox is a classist, racist, Covid-denying, bigoted, moron that even the majority of the British right wing ignore as too far gone.
Is there an echo in here??
The whole cyclical thing is bullshit and has been for thousands of years. Good times make for a surplus in food and other products, which can feed a warrior caste to pillage more prosperity from the unfortunate.
Dr. Devereaux explores this myth in his series dubbed “The Fremen Mirage” (named such after the fictional people of Dune, both to provide an example of its “distilled” portrayal in fiction and to avoid linking it to any specific real culture he’d step on the toes of).
And we do need men. Men whose identity isn’t defined by supremacy or dominance, but by the courage to step up, the strength to help carry the weaker members of society, the honour to protect the vulnerable and the confidence to not feel emasculated by conceding error or showing tenderness or loving other men.
Most of that is applicable to humans in general, regardless of gender, biology, sexuality, ethnicity or whether they like soy-based foods, but if we’re gonna lean into masculine stereotypes, let it be the healthy, beneficial ones.
And if we’re gonna lean into men, have fun!
TIL that Lemmy has <hr/>
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I never actually tried HTML tags (and I’d be surprised if they work, given the vulnerabilities that would introduce), but Lemmy (or at least most clients) supports Markdown, where
achieves the same effect.Actually, let me try the HTML tag.
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Doesn’t look like it on my end. Shame.
While we’re at it, it does support HTML entities like ü ∈ or ⥱ (
ü∈or&respectively).You can also use
for larger paragraphs breaks like the one above:text textOh,… of course. I kinda forgot that there is a vanilla markdown language.
Got used too much to html/xml
Got used too much to html/xml
Condolences, hope you recover soon
Yeah. Does seem rather like weak men of all types (perhaps most especially the try-hard covering up their errors, tenderness and love) contribute to bad times. Does seem like the exit route out of the cyclical thing (the delusion thereof) is to keep on generating good times that create strong good men, not hard strong men… because history shows us hard strong men at the fore of worst times. ~ (Or at least that type of weak men who try to appear as hard strong men to compensate for, rather than admit and correct their errors; to deny their tenderness; to pervert their love (e.g. for domination rather than each other))
And better nettle tea, than soy, if we’re looking after men’s health like hormonal influences on how beneficially they purport themselves.
… Just realised… Also, lets all drop all the times stuff like its the same for everyone. Always more variety of experience no matter the times. Always a variety of men of whatever reductive judgement anyone may want to put on each. We got interesting times, now and ahead. Buckle up, everybody. Much to mend. We’ll need the rich variety of aptitudes in each, not the wrong criteria of pass/fail individuals on the colour of their skin, or their preference of this or that.
Ever hard work picking out the insidious little psyops the foxes plop into our brains. As we keep doing that hard work, from these bad times, we’ll become hard men, and then fox can get his narcissistic fuel, like he’s the father of salvation, instead of the rotter making things bad. It’s same old “conservative” con, they keep your head under water, drowning you, and when you finally manage to rise up for air, they take credit for making you strong enough to.
Did he just call himself soft?
Hard men make soft men. Soft men become hard men… What were we talking about?
good times make hard men. soft men make me hard.
This comment made me a hard man.
most of the 20th century dictators were men “made” by bad times. explain this sherlock.
I think the sticking point would be the “hard [people] make good times” assertion. Hard (read: traumatized) people tend to be assertive and aggressive in positions of leadership. While that certainly can create change for the better, that change is far from guaranteed.
Trauma’s no magic wand that makes people hard. It’s not always true that what does not kill you makes you stronger.
It’s funny that Laurence is about as soft a lad as they come. His entire acting family is so obviously posh and pampered that they all have to play Malfoys, but the rest of them just get on with it instead of coming out with cry-baby shit like this on the regular.
