Basically a roundabout way of asking: How much do people really care about you?

I know I could vanish for like 48 hours and my parents and older brother probably wouldn’t even want to look for me (I’m around 18-25, not a minor so they have no legal responsibilities). Nobody in the world cares about me. I mean they already told me that in my face that if I went missing, they won’t care.

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      As a parent of two young kids, there’s definitely times where getting kidnapped sounds good.

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    By the first evening by 9pm, when they didn’t get dinner.

    I would take that “we don’t care” as an invitation to leave and start a new life with people who do care. Nobody should say that out loud, what assholes, but since they don’t need you, you are free.

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    I think people would notice early (work would definitely be the first to know), but would take a while to actually report something.

    I think it’s pretty universal; people don’t want to make a fuss or be a bother… like it would be embarrassing or something to report someone missing for not showing up to work, or missing a gym session. Not to mention the not-so-missing will probably feel quite upset about getting reported missing because they took an unprompted nap or lost their phone.

    It’s not strange for adults to not answer their phone, and in NPF-circles it’s even less strange for someone to go into social hibernation with very little warning.

    Unfortunately this will lead to (single household) adults being missing for longer before people get worried enough to actually tell someone, and then they’ll try to get in touch with other friends or family before the actual police.

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    I don’t think this shows how much people care about me. This would show how much people depend on me. I’m the breadwinner and major organizer of my family. They’d fall apart within hours.

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    I have a job, a wife, and a kid, so I’d expect almost immediately. Especially if my phones go dark.

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    I message my wife when I get to work and when I’m leaving. So somewhere between an hour and 7 or 8 depending on exactly when in my day I get nabbed for her to notice.

    My work colleagues would probably try to call me if I didn’t turn up (I’ve fallen off my bike before so they might suspect that) but I don’t think they would put out a police report immediately if I just didn’t turn up one morning.

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      My wife is very protective of me for some odd reason. She likes to joke about how I should watch out for nets (I’m a fish?). If I don’t turn up somewhere she’ll call me in less than an hour. We both work from home (when I’m employed that is) so we’re always around each other. It’s rare that I go anywhere unless I have to travel for work, and that has typically not been a lot.

      I also have a home automation platform where I do location tracking and plot us on a map. If I were to fall off, it’d be pretty noticeable.

      I’m guessing if anyone were to snatch me, they’d get an hour head start before wifey started chasing them down with a shotgun. Kinda nice to think that someone is looking out for me. I guess all that box chowing has paid off.

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    It would probably take a few weeks, or a lucky text from a family member for anyone to ever realize i went missing. I’ve thought about it a lot

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    I work from home and always tell my husband when I’m going out. He works from the office 1-2 days a week and is home other days. So depending on the day it’d take minutes or around dinner time. Although he’d probably text my phone and wait for hours before contacting others.

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    I don’t leave the secure area much, but I get the question.

    I have an airtag on my keys and my wife probably has geofencing because I don’t go far. She’ll have the cops on the phone inside of 2 blocks. This area has a Lot of cameras so they’ll have a leg up. And until they go through my pockets and ditch the air tag, she’ll have a trace on them.

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    I guess it depends on the time of day. If it was morning, probably 6 hours because my kids would now be home alone, and as soon as my wife gets home in the afternoon, there’s no way she doesn’t freak out. Maybe even less since my one kid has a phone that can only call my wife. We have so many things we do every day that if any of us went missing, it would be a huge red flag pretty quickly. Thinking about it now, it feels kind of sad. I like freedom, and right now, I guess I have very little of that, lol.

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      Lol I remember my dad having an argument with my mom in the morning so he just noped out of the house without anyone noticing he left the house, and didn’t respond to phone calls until late afternoon. I think he was having a mini-vacation lol.