• nectar45@lemmy.zip
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    You would be suprised by how much of the left hates bisexuals, without realizing that makes them as bad as any other bigot

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      I’ve had these conversations with people before. I was telling a fellow man how I don’t care if my partner is bi. He said something like “woah man, there can be some major trust issues there” implying that her “homosexual needs” will lead her to cheat on me with my sister or something. I didn’t follow his logic.

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      Some of the weirdest shit I have seen in the LGBT sphere is how comfortable some of them are with dictating who is allowed to date whom and whether or not their preferences are okay.

      It’s the main reason I don’t really vibe with the LGBT community. Don’t mind gays and trans and whatever else is out there. Normal people living their normal lives and loving the people they love and finding ways to be comfortable in their own bodies is how things should be.

      But the LGBT sometimes reminds me of organized religion. It’s not the individual believer who lives his or her life in peace who is the problem, but the weird cultlike behavior going on in the group where everybody has to hold the same opinions that tend to become progressively more extreme over time until the church controls every aspect of your life. Including whom your are allowed to love.

      But it is difficult to bring this up without immediately being labeled a phob because the LGBT owns non-straight sexuality and if you criticize the movement, you criticize all the non straight people.

      BLM has similar vibes.

      I just don’t like groups. Churches, political groups, grassroots movements, you name it. It all ends up the same in the end. With group pressure, control, shaming and ostracizing when you don’t toe the line.

      If I learned anything in my 20s, its that being a part of any ideological groups is not in your best interest. No matter how good and safe it feels in the beginning.

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        7 days ago

        blahaj.zone basically

        Turns into an authoritarian cult. You’re either completely with them or fully against them

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          I don’t think they are the only ones on this platform, tbh xD I will say that I have run into some chill blåhaj people here and I have run into people who are affiliated with entirely different instances or what you call them that have displayed some of the most unhinged, unpleasant behavior I have experienced online. I was so close to just delete myself from this platform and forget about having any online social outlet after a series of interactions with particularly disgusting individuals on here. I can kind of see why they were banned off of reddit, ngl. I haven’t interacted enough with blåhaj people to say if they are as bad as that or not. Seems like a mixed bag to me.

          The most pleasant people on here that I have met have mostly been my fellow Danes and all the Linux people. For whatever reason, the Linux fanatics just tend to be super welcoming and encouraging which statistically shouldn’t be the case. All lived experience tells me that groups that are obsessed with a specific topic/lifestyle are usually some of the worst people to be around. Doesn’t matter the subject. But somehow these nerds manage to be chill. 😆

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            I have run into some chill blåhaj people here

            I mean I have met many chill lemmy.ml, lemmygrad and hexbear users. They’re just a pain when you talk about their specific topics. The same applies to blahaj users. The main issue is ada, the instance admin of blahaj

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              I guess that’s true. Personally I like to give everybody a chance and if they decide to be unhinged toward me and ignore any and all attempts I make to have us meet in the middle, they get a block. I used to think that blocking people was weak and that I should be able to find common ground with others no matter what, but at this point in my life, I have accepted that some people aren’t just misunderstood or misunderstanding me or are just having a bad day. Some people are just assholes and a waste of time, so block.

              But honestly, someone can belong to any group or ideology, genuinely, any one of them and I will still try and meet them as a person first and be open minded. I have talked to unhinged leftwing extremists and I have talked to unhinged right-wing extremists, religious, atheists, vegans, you name it, and I have found the humanity in them or I have accepted that they are not worth my time. It always depends on the individual, but some individuals are so stuck in the hivemind of their ideology that there really isn’t much individual to connect with. And that is kind of scary and sad to come across that. Both online and irl.

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      8 days ago

      I wouldn’t say “the left” but biphobia is absolutely insane among non traitor lunatics.

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            but it’s a good thing if it happened when she was your wife (if you’re exclusive ofc)