Yeah that’s some Pope shit to do

Didn’t even think of that. You’re right.

Dual citizen with Australia, sorry. Though it is fairly light paperwork for Americans who are in tech - as in the U.S., the best chances are to get in stateside with a big company that has an Aussie HQ (Atlassian, Xero, Canva, FAANG, etc.) and then transfer

You know what? You’re absolutely right.

People: please leave flying 737s to trained experts with the know-how, FAA licensure, and medical clearance. They know better than you even if you think you can do it from a meme.

It’s very important that you not touch ANY of the buttons and dials on a 737. People could get hurt or even die if you do.

Such better political discussions here than on Reddit

I left and got two Sr SWE positions within 3 months. It’s like the 90’s down here

I’m actually removing this myself because the rule is no politics

Also you don’t seem to understand that ADHD is a mood altering disorder in itself. So in making the choice to give your kid a “mood altering drug”, which seems to be your particular axe to grind, you may in fact be helping them.

You should also consider the possibility that the medical professionals you have talked to have detected your strong opinions and have chosen the most effective strategy - to validate your thinking to the extent possible - because it is in the best interest of your child. They gave you options because informed consent is a thing.

There are in fact clinical guidelines for when treatment is recommended vs. not - a clinician can apply their opinion of course but there are evidence-based standards of care, derived from a huge amount of data and careful analysis over time. It sounds like you’re placing your individual judgment above the long history of the combined effort of some very smart people.

Listen, I don’t know what is going on in your case. Your younger kid might not have any disorder or need treatment, but this arrogant “As a parent…” framing doesn’t help. I just hope they don’t grow up performing below a level that they potentially could, or in some degree of emotional distress, because they couldn’t get the treatment they needed at the time they needed it.

Finally, please consider the known competing risks of treatment (including non-pharma) and lack of treatment.

I’m going to try. Could be:

1. A long running UPDATE which can temporarily lock all of the data that is being updated. Basically a lock is when the relevant data is frozen while the transaction executes. This can happen at the field or row or table level in most robust database management systems, but in SQLite, during the time when a create, update, or delete is actually being written to disk, the whole file (database) is locked while that happens, even for processes wishing to perform reads.

The solution is to wait for completion, but your query could take 7 million years to complete so… you might not have the patience. You could also just exhaust the compute/memory resources of the machine.

This feels bad when you expected it to be a simple transaction or when you only expected the update to apply to a small subset of data… it’s possible that you’re using a suboptimal query strategy (e.g. many JOINs, lack of indices, not using WITH) or that you’re running your UPDATE on a huge number of records instead of the three you expected to change.

And/or

2. A deadlock, meaning the same data is being operated on at the same time, but the operations can’t execute because there is a competing/circular lock.

The use of BEGIN means that the transaction has started. You usually use COMMIT to actually finish and complete the transaction. If you’ve got another query operating on the same data happening during this time, even if it’s data that is incidental and only used to make the JOIN work, there can be “overlap” which makes the transactions hang, because the DB engine can’t work out which lock to release first.

SQLite is single file based and has a more basic and broad lock vs Postgres or other DMBSes. This means that SQLite doesn’t deadlock because it processes each transaction one after another, but this paradigm may slow everything down vs. MariaDB, Postgres etc

Also see ACID compliance for further reading (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ACID)

All my homies work at Lawrence Livermore

Look at that subtle off-white coloring. The tasteful thickness of it.

Oh gosh you’re right. I think I was confusing it with how I previously used the list() constructor, which I no longer use. Thanks for the clarification.

This is also necessary for lists in python with one member. Or was.

Lilydale to Wooli today: