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  • Honestly I think you should just be kind of straightforward with them and let them know that at home you were doing fine but once you are over there you’re basically going through a Year’s worth of savings eating out like that. I would say to be clear with them on that point and as long as you’ve gotten that through then that’s what you needed to get through to them.

    Maybe they will have time to think about it and realize the situation they are putting you in or maybe they won’t. Either way you shouldn’t need to overspend to be around them.

    If they realize what’s going on and change then good, you will be able to continue to see them and have them in your life, but if not I think it’s probably best to just keep the relationship long distance with them.



  • Qwazpoi@lemmy.worldtoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.worldMakes sense
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    12 days ago

    I’m no historical expert and I am just kind of spitballing here but I could see a few situations where that would make sense. Like you have something that is too hot to handle for the time being, maybe you just stole from Spain and now you have to pass through a Spanish blockade? Or maybe people can easily show up to a port with a normal amount of gold/currency but then over a certain amount it either risks being confiscated or drawing attention.


  • Someone else I know got a printer and got bored printing with it after a bit and said I can print on it whenever if I toss them a roll of material every now and then.

    I ended up finding all kinds of useful things to print. I made a connection piece for a sink that had a garbage disposal removed when I couldn’t find the fitting anywhere and after 3 years it’s holding up fine. I made a set of cams for a washer that randomly stopped spinning one day and those have been working nicely. Just a bunch of times it ended up coming in handy.


  • When confronted with any questions that make people evaluate their dissonance people will often fall back on “I don’t know” and refuse to engage information that contradicts their beliefs. If they do engage at all it may come in the form of circular logic, “Things are this way because they just are”.

    It can basically become a parent getting exasperated trying to explain why the sky is blue to a kid when they don’t really know themselves.

    The disconnect is often that their worldview is they are “right” and they just know that they are, and trying to prove otherwise kinda circles back on the sky argument. Saying that they are wrong is like telling them the sky is neon yellow, they know you’re wrong in their mind.

    So yeah I’m not sure how to get through to that other than people being social and usually abandoning ideas if they conflict with everyone around them and offer no options for people to engage with them, but that can be undone fast with an echo chamber of false information or really anything that reinforces their beliefs.