Couldn’t agree more. I have very loose friendships with old high school buddies and we rarely hang out. My wife however is doing something with her friends 2-3 times per week, having “women only” retreats, calling them almost daily, buying them birthday gifts even if they live out of state, and so on. She’s infinitely more connected to a community than I am and for some men I think it’s a real challenge to put themselves out there and to try and build up that trust and dependence to a certain degree. Men like to think we’re Batman: we want a bare minimum of relationships so they can’t be used against us.
Couldn’t agree more. I have very loose friendships with old high school buddies and we rarely hang out. My wife however is doing something with her friends 2-3 times per week, having “women only” retreats, calling them almost daily, buying them birthday gifts even if they live out of state, and so on. She’s infinitely more connected to a community than I am and for some men I think it’s a real challenge to put themselves out there and to try and build up that trust and dependence to a certain degree. Men like to think we’re Batman: we want a bare minimum of relationships so they can’t be used against us.