• TheWitchofThornbury2@aussie.zone
    15·
    10 days ago

    OK folks, I have my family Xmas plans sorted now. My boys are coming down a couple days after the day itself (including the family from Munich) so the family xmas will be a couple of days later. So …

    I’m open to hosting an Orphans of the DT xmas on the fatal day. Basically a low key afternoon of grazing on snacks and playing board games and having a generally pleasant afternoon in good company. I have a mahjong set, backgammon set, chess set, cribbage board and plenty of cards. Drinking alcohol optional. I may have to appoint a Minister for Music as I am a total Luddite when it comes to modern technology and my older boy latched onto my bloke’s sound system after he passed. And a good thing too as the damn thing took up at least 4 square metres. Trustworthy SOs/partners welcome. My thought right now is maybe 12 noon to 4 or 5 pm but this is flexible.

    No presents, but a plate of something snacklike to put on the table for general consumption would be a nice contribution to the general festivities. I’ll be doing basic chips n dips, and soup if the weather is chilly. Definitely BYO alcohol. I’ll have tea/coffee/some soft drinks going.

    Please DM me if you are interested on this username, as my other one (Thornburywitch) is for work computer only and I won’t be accessing it after the end of this week.

    At this point I’m looking to see how many people might be interested. Final numbers etc. can be confirmed later.

  • PeelerSheila @aussie.zone
    14·
    11 days ago

    Child support rant:

    It has been determined that I have to pay my ex child support even though we live together, I’m on record with Centrelink as paying for all household expenses and the children spend 7 nights a week in my part of the house🤦🏼‍♀️. We technically classify as Separated Under One Roof, so we are co-parenting whilst separated but still living together. It’s increasingly common where both parties to a separation lack the financial means to move out of the family home or want to minimise any negative impact on the children (in our case, both). There’s no formal custody agreement because we just sort stuff out based on which parent is available to do it. I haven’t even been officially informed yet, he got his letter first. I’ll be disputing it. Even he thinks it is a dumb decision. He knows he’s got a good deal as it is… I pay for everything because I’m working and he’s not, including his car insurance, registration and phone bill because you need that stuff in order when you’re running errands with kids. It’s in my interests for him to be able to pick up the kids from school, for example, or I’d have to take time off from work to do it, so there’d be less money coming into the household which would negatively impact everyone. As I said I’ll be disputing it, when they decide to inform me that is! It just feels like a kick in the guts before Christmas, and I feel emotionally winded.

    • CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone
      8·
      11 days ago

      That’s fucked.

      Hey, if you earn under the threshold you might be entitled to a health care card. It gives you discounts on some of your bills. I’d check that out.

    • StudSpud The Starchy@aussie.zoneEnglish
      6·
      11 days ago

      I assume you have to tell the gummit about the split and child support due to C-link payments? Otherwise I’d advise to just come to an agreement yourselves (twas what my mum and dad did when they split, but tbf neither were on C-link at the time).

      Definitely raise a dispute, it might help if you both raise one as well? I’m sorry you’re going through this peeler 💜💜

    • tombruzzo@aussie.zone
      5·
      11 days ago

      At least he agrees with you and seems to be willing to accept the change. It would be so much harder if he tried to fight as well and make you pay him

  • CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone
    12·
    11 days ago

    The triplets eating lunch with the big bad wolf (not pictured) circling their flimsy wire house. Just kidding. He’s busy chasing birds.

    Ps. Guinea pig sex is not something I wanted to watch on my coffee break.

  • SituationCake@aussie.zone
    11·
    11 days ago

    I’m still shaken by the Bondi massacre. Some humans such pieces of sh1t. Not only the ones that did the attacking, but some of the rhetoric flying about is also revolting.

    • tone212_@aussie.zone
      9·
      11 days ago

      Same, I’ve had to limit my exposure to the news and online commentary because it was really affecting me yesterday.

      • duncan_bayne@lemmy.worldEnglish
        8·
        11 days ago

        I did this some time ago - I have a very heavily filtered Mastodon feed, and a carefully curated RSS feed - both mostly around tech news, and as little to do with LLMs as possible.

        Don’t regret this for a minute from a mental health perspective, especially when something happens like this.

      • Seagoon_@aussie.zone
        5·
        11 days ago

        same and hugs,

        I can’t think about it too much or I get triggered/flashbacks to incident earlier this year

        it must be like this for so many people

      • 🇦🇺Baku@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        2·
        10 days ago
        bondi

        Yeah it was for me too. I ended up deleting the ABC app because I was compulsively checking it every 20 or so minutes for most of yesterday. They showed photos of the victims (taken before it happened) and that broke me. I just couldn’t deal with it and broke down. I’ve still checked the website too many times today, but I’m slightly more composed than yesterday.

        I just wanted to drop in and make sure everybody was holding up okay, or i guess better than I was. Hugs, not that that feels very helpful at the moment, at least not to me :/

  • tombruzzo@aussie.zone
    8·
    11 days ago

    It’s vindicating to sit in on a meeting with people telling the team to pretty much do the thing I’ve been saying.

    A supplier has had a whirlwind of a time selling a product we’ve been struggling to sell, and they’ve been doing it in a way I’ve said we should approach things. This place can be a little backwards in some respects, so it’s great to hear from outsiders they’re having success in the ways I’ve been saying we should move for a while.

  • SaneMartigan@aussie.zone
    8·
    10 days ago

    The new relationship continues. We spent the night (on the phone) discussing what we were bringing to a party this weekend.

  • SaneMartigan@aussie.zone
    7·
    11 days ago

    I was already booked in but time to go donate some O+ to the cause. Need a shower first, I hated treating manky bodies as a therapist and I’m currently manky.

  • imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone
    7·
    10 days ago

    When I grow up I am gonna be the sort of person that replaces the soda stream bottle before the backup also runs out.

  • LowExperience2368@aussie.zone
    7·
    11 days ago

    I have a psych session today and I don’t know what to talk about. I feel like I’m wasting my money. But I’m not super satisfied with my life right now, so something must be going on still. We shall see.

      • LowExperience2368@aussie.zone
        1·
        10 days ago

        That’s what my psych thinks. Also my neurotype. We ended up doing a formulation today and we talked about how common strategies to help mental health problems might not work for me because of my environment.

        And my environment isn’t even bad.

    • SpinMeRound@aussie.zone
      3·
      11 days ago

      I’ve had the same thing before but have found pretty quickly that my psych is quickly able to pick up something that might be bothering me or is able to lead a discussion into something I didn’t realise I wanted to talk about that day.