I never really hated trans people personally but I definitely didn’t see them as whole people for most of my life. I thought they were just broken mentally or something which was easy to rationalize since most trans people (including myself) carry around a fair bit of trauma and mental health issues, often due to how people treat us and how society depicts us. The color I want to add here is that despite having (eventually) accepted that trans people exist and aren’t broken and transitioning is a totally fine thing for someone to do, I didn’t connect the dots that I was trans and that I could transition myself. I finally realize the first time I tried lsd. It just hit me like a truck that I’m a woman and I was the whole time and I want to transition. All the pieces finally came together (there were so many signs) and I just couldn’t ignore it anymore. For me it took that final push even after accepting transness in general, so you can imagine how hard it would be for someone who literally does hate trans people and think we’re broken scum. Whatever they’re experiencing can’t be being trans in their mind because trans people are those broken other people.
I was honestly kind of on this path. Not to this point, but the self-hatred was definitely being directed outward in some not-so-subtle ways. Both convincing myself that trans people were degenerate so that I wouldn’t want to be trans, and also as a “cover” in a way, because I was terrified my friends would figure out I’m trans.
I remember seeing a post fairly recently from someone broadly apologizing to a trans sub, because they’d been trolling and harassing it for a while previously. Same story, they were trans, and took out the fear and self-hate on other trans people to try and displace their feelings.
I am not proud of it, but I used to be like that when I was around 11 to 13. Seeing right wingers bully the pokémon go kid turned me away from them and now I’m a socialist.
I did loathe myself so much back then. I know now I was experiencing gender dysphoria but I didn’t know what it was then so it just made me confused and angry. I learned about the existence of transgender people from transphobes which just made me hate myself more.
So yes this a definitely a thing. I am not sure how you would discover this about someone while they are still in the self loathing stage, but I know of people in the self acceptance stage (myself included) who have talked about how they were like that in the past.
Is this a thing? I met a transmasc irl that did this but how do you even discover this about a transfem?
I never really hated trans people personally but I definitely didn’t see them as whole people for most of my life. I thought they were just broken mentally or something which was easy to rationalize since most trans people (including myself) carry around a fair bit of trauma and mental health issues, often due to how people treat us and how society depicts us. The color I want to add here is that despite having (eventually) accepted that trans people exist and aren’t broken and transitioning is a totally fine thing for someone to do, I didn’t connect the dots that I was trans and that I could transition myself. I finally realize the first time I tried lsd. It just hit me like a truck that I’m a woman and I was the whole time and I want to transition. All the pieces finally came together (there were so many signs) and I just couldn’t ignore it anymore. For me it took that final push even after accepting transness in general, so you can imagine how hard it would be for someone who literally does hate trans people and think we’re broken scum. Whatever they’re experiencing can’t be being trans in their mind because trans people are those broken other people.
I was honestly kind of on this path. Not to this point, but the self-hatred was definitely being directed outward in some not-so-subtle ways. Both convincing myself that trans people were degenerate so that I wouldn’t want to be trans, and also as a “cover” in a way, because I was terrified my friends would figure out I’m trans.
I remember seeing a post fairly recently from someone broadly apologizing to a trans sub, because they’d been trolling and harassing it for a while previously. Same story, they were trans, and took out the fear and self-hate on other trans people to try and displace their feelings.
Dang that’s really sad. When you see people do that do you forgive them and let them in or are they kept a safe distance afterward?
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Depends on the tools a given community has to cope.
I am not proud of it, but I used to be like that when I was around 11 to 13. Seeing right wingers bully the pokémon go kid turned me away from them and now I’m a socialist.
I did loathe myself so much back then. I know now I was experiencing gender dysphoria but I didn’t know what it was then so it just made me confused and angry. I learned about the existence of transgender people from transphobes which just made me hate myself more.
So yes this a definitely a thing. I am not sure how you would discover this about someone while they are still in the self loathing stage, but I know of people in the self acceptance stage (myself included) who have talked about how they were like that in the past.
Dude, Pokemon Go came out when we were like 30.
I was 13 in 2016. Believe it or not, many different people are on the internet.
I WAS TOLD that everyone on the Internet is a 40 year old male, regardless of what they claim.
Yeah sorry I actually lied earlier. I am really a 40 year old neckbeard living in my mom’s basement. /s